When Supermom Needs Saving

When Supermom Needs Saving - Chic and Domestic

Do you ever feel like there just aren’t enough hours in a day? Great, so it isn’t just me! When I tell you that I feel like an exhausted mom, it is nooo exaggeration. It’s such hard work maintaining Supermom status. I’ve had a busy and productive week, and I’m extremely proud of everything I’ve managed to get accomplished, but for some reason it was easier for me to focus on the two (Yes, 2 out of a million) things that I managed not to complete.

Now, I’ve said it before, as mothers we manage to get things done, because it’s simply what we have to do, be the SHEro. Our children and our families depend on us so much to save the day. My question is, who saves us, and when is it okay to ask for help? It’s an amazing feeling to check a million things off of your “To Do” list, and feel completely accomplished once you finally get a chance to crash in bed, but what about when your list doesn’t get completed? Is that even an option?

My biggest struggle as a mom is doing too much, while also feeling like I’m not doing enough. I cook, I clean, I mom, I blog, all day! I do it because I love it, but I also do it because I feel like I have to. In retrospect, I guess I obviously do, because realistically these tiny people don’t feed themselves, and if I don’t clean several times throughout the day, my house looks like a hurricane hit it, but hear me out here.

Sometimes it’s okay to not complete your “To do” list. Sometimes it’s okay to ask for help to complete your “To do” list. There are mothers all over the world who struggle, whether publicly or privately with trying to do it all. My guess would be that at least half of those mothers aren’t happy. It’s extremely stressful to be Supermom 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, as if you don’t have a significant other to lean on, a friend, or your family. Even when you don’t have the support from your inner circle, sometimes it’s worth it to step outside of that circle.

Everyone needs somebody from time to time. I completely understand, because I have a hard time asking for help, but when you’re physically and mentally starting to lack, everything else, including all of your efforts to be Supermom suffer also. The reality of it is, some things are important to cross off of your list, DO THAT. Some things are just things that can wait. Don’t overexert yourself just to be in competition with the perfect mom. I can assure you, she’s not perfect, and she probably doesn’t pee alone without tiny hands under the bathroom door either. Don’t let her fool you.

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13 Comments

  1. I definitely need to ask for help more often. Slacking on my own mental health and self-care hinders my ability to be an effective mom in the end. Thanks for sharing!

    1. It’s so important to ask for help, even though it can be hard at times. Doing so much all of the time can be draining for anyone.

  2. Being a mom is hard. Being a work from home mom has a whole nother set of issues. I always feel like I need to do more but then like I am not doing enough! How is it possible for us to have so many feelings! haha thanks for the great article.

    1. I’m so glad you enjoyed the read! I try to keep it very open and honest. It’s EMOTIONAL being a mom lol. It’s such hard work, but at the end of the day all we want to do is our best.

  3. Lol, this was great 🙂 That’s one thing I’ve learned – the person who looks perfect to us is probably going through exactly what we’re going through. And yes, asking for help, and finding those who will help are crucial, but like you said – you don’t always have to finish that to do list!

    1. I’m glad you enjoyed the read! It’s hard not completing your to do list, but it’s also so important to spend quality time with your family and really be present, without the added pressure of overworking yourself just to complete a to do list.

    1. That’s great! It’s so true. Sometimes the dishes can wait (WOw, can’t believe I said that lol) as long as you aren’t missing out on being present in your children’s lives, you’re doing something very very RIGHT.

    1. I try to limit my priorities on my to do list. It’s just that I start writing up my list and then it seems like everything turns into a priority. Sometimes it’s important for me to remember that matching all 30 of the socks I found in my laundry can wait until later.

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